Something you read online, leave a link and discuss if you’d like
I spend a lot of time on the internet (probably too much time, but such is life!!) A fair amount of the time is reading blogs, some is spent looking for info for patient care info, therapy ideas etc. I also look for various craft info, inspiration etc. In recent years I have spent time reading about being childless not by choice. I stumbled across this article a while back. The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life
It is quite intense, at least to me. This woman talks about how she did not want her two children, and how her life would have been so much better without them. I do not have any problem with her feeling that way, and I appreciate her brutal honesty. The thing that I struggle with is that she reveals her identity. I really cannot imagine how difficult it is for her children to hear the things that she has to say. It seems from the article that she was a good mom, although not an expressive or affectionate one. But I would be hurt if my mom said that I took from her and she got nothing in return. I work with children every day, they are not my own children, and I feel that I get positive things from them, so I think it would be magnified if they were your own (although the responsibilities are magnified as well.)
I agree with you, I don’t understand why she revealed her identity. It must have been tough for her children to know that is how she felt.
I am so torn on this one. Really, really torn. Before I read it, I thought how awful it must have been for the children to know this. But reading it, I’m not so sure it’s unfair of her.
It sounds like she was probably honest with them from an age that she thought was appropriate, and I’m guessing that it was an actually appropriate age based on the kind of parenting she provided. So when she told them, they probably already had an idea of her thoughts. As she said, they knew she wasn’t outwardly loving but that she loved them. They knew that dad was the one who gave them the best time. They knew that she had given them everything she had. And they probably knew she was a very honest person. Lying wouldn’t be right here, and I think it’s likely that when she explained it she made it clear that it wasn’t the right choice for her life, but she still gave them the best life she could because that’s what they deserved.
What’s interesting also is I feel if this was a father it wouldn’t be as big of an issue. Think of all the dad out there that have children to appease the wives. Most aren’t even good dads from that point on, which is sad, but to have a dad follow his duties and take care of them but leave most of the loving and doting to the mom? Normal.
I don’t know. I’m rambling. This is fascinating to me, and I feel bad for her as much as the children, since it seems that they are well adjusted. Who knows though!